Today, for no particular reason, I felt like an absolutely worthless piece of crap. I feel like such a fraud. Looking around at all the hardworking people enjoying their Sundays, knowing that tomorrow is another Sunday for me. And the day after that. And the day after that.
BUT… I am not one to dwell. I have spent much of the day trying to lift my spirits with some degree of success so I thought I’d share my tactics with you.
Help someone else. Instead of focusing on how useless you feel, make yourself useful. Today I helped my Mum paint her garden fence. Sure, she could have done it alone but with me she did it in half the time and I got the warm fuzzy feeling of satisfaction because I did a good deed. An honest to god, selfless, good deed. As Ralph Wiggum would say, “I’m helping!”
Have a deep clean. This applies to your living area (when things are tidy, you automatically feel organised and less stressed) and your own body (who doesn’t love a bubble bath and to smell like berries?!) Trust me, it’ll just help you feel like you have your sh*t together… even if you don’t.
Indulge in a guilty pleasure, something you really enjoy! For me, this would be trashy reality tv. Keeping up with the Kardashians, Teen Mom, Catfish, Made in Chelsea, you name it. I love it all. Don’t judge me.
Talk to children – preferably some kids you are related to/know because I don’t want you getting put on some kind of register. Firstly, kids are hilarious. My 3 year old nephew cracks me up and always makes me smile even when I don’t feel like it. Also, they are grounded and simplistic. They say it like it is. The refreshing honesty can help you keep things in perspective and remind you what’s truly important in life.
Channel your negative feelings into productivity. Many of the worlds most beautiful artistic creations were inspired by heartbreak. There is a reason art therapy is a thing, ya know.
Snuggle up. Get cosy. Cuddle your pet, partner, friend… whoever. Well I say whoever, again, choose carefully because don’t forget about those registers I mentioned earlier. I am sure there is some science behind it about hugs being good for you but regardless, you need love right now… so let yourself be loved.
Take a quiet minute to reflect on everything you are grateful for. Not to brag but I have my health, I have a roof over my head, I have food to eat, I have friends and family who love me… the list goes on. You may feel worthless but I promise you are wanted, you are loved and you would be missed terribly by someone if you weren’t around.
Keep your head up, friend. Better times are coming.